We humans are communal beings. It is a vital part of who we are. And when we separate ourselves, or allow ourselves to be separated from that, we suffer. Many of us are aware of the importance of people in our lives, but a lot of times what we translate that into is giving, giving, giving. The thing is, though, that you can only give so much if you aren't receiving. Giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. I've written about that before.
Being a woman is about nurturing and therefore about giving. But being a woman is also about receiving. One of the main qualities of yin, the feminine energy, is the ability to receive. When we can't receive, we are not using our energy in a harmonious way, and eventually that affects our ability to give. It erodes our sense of who we are, and when we lose touch with that, we aren't able to give in ways that truly reflect our nature and our personal power. When we can't receive, our energy seeps from us and isn't replenished. And ultimately, then, we can't give genuinely.
Where in your life are you not receiving? Where are you not receiving from others, and where are you not receiving from yourself? Who is your support system? What is your support system, and are you asking for help? Sometimes, that's all we need to do, and when we do it, we are often overwhelmed with the support that readily awaits us.
Where in your life do you feel alone? There is nothing wrong with feeling alone; it's a human condition that calls for a response, and the response is community. Who is your community, and are you asking for its support? Support doesn't mean feeding your victimhood, it means empowerment. Support sometimes comes in the form of people who are willing to challenge you to be more of who you are. And sometimes it's just about supporting how you are feeling in the moment.
We all struggle. We all go through times when we wish we could change our circumstances. Sometimes what gets us through is faith. Sometimes it's prayer. Sometimes it's hanging on for dear life to something you know is the right thing for you. And sometimes to do that we need others.
We women understand the power of community. We understand it, we nurture it, we support it. But sometimes we forget to nurture ourselves with it. Today, I invite you to look at your ability to receive. I invite you to look at your ability to be nurtured. And I challenge you to ask for support where you need it. It's there. And it's waiting for you. Can you allow others to support you and nurture you in ways that you yourself support and nurture others?
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." What support are you willing to give, and what are you willing to receive?