The topic of choices comes up all the time in my consultations with my clients. And every single time, the solution lies in paying attention to themselves and their inner wisdom. How do you do that? Well, there are several ways. The first thing, however, is to let go of your attachment to the "right" and "wrong" concept. Choices are just choices. It's true that some lead us down a very different path, but that doesn't mean that path is "wrong" or "right." Whatever path you're on, you're given opportunities to learn, to grow, and to change. If you can let go of the "right" and "wrong" thing, you're halfway there. And if you believe in a loving God, that God is not going to send you packing for making the "wrong" choice. You are always supported.
Once you're able to let go of the idea that you can make a "wrong" choice, you're able to hear yourself better because a lot of the chatter in your mind will have calmed down. Now you can start to pay attention to that inner voice of wisdom, because all your answers lie there. Listening to the inner voice is a skill everyone has. Some of us use it constantly, others of us hardly ever. But it's something we're born with and certainly something we can re-learn.
Obviously, I can't begin to cover the subject in a 5-paragraph-long blog, but here are some basic tools for "hearing" that voice when you're trying to make a decision:
- Ask yourself: Which choice is more in alignment with what I value deeply?
- Notice how you feel when you think about each choice: Does your body feel lighter or heavier?
- Ask yourself: How will I feel about myself after making each choice?
- Play eeny-meeny-miney-mo. I'm absolutely serious. Our intuition knows the answers that are best for us: If you play eeny-meeny, you will either be happy or disappointed with what you end up with. Pay attention to that; it's a huge nudge.