Until recently. One blessing that's come out of the economy being "down" in the last few years is that more and more people are talking about their money issues - it's become okay - or at least easier - to be more honest about your situation without feeling like a misfit or outcast. When I work with clients on their fears around money, I always ask them what the absolute worst-case scenario might be. This isn't something most people readily fantasize about, but when we have the courage to go there in our minds, we usually don't meet quite the monster we'd expected to.
Talking about your situation, acknowledging your fears, is a huge step towards releasing them. What is the absolute worst-case scenario? Bankruptcy? That you'll be on the street? Ot that you'll have to ask for help? Isn't it ultimately about how you'll be perceived? Even the fear of abandonment revolves around that...you have to be perceived a certain way first in order to be abandoned.
This is why talking about your fears is so powerful. If your ultimate fear is around how you'll be perceived, then by facing that fear now - by talking about it - you're actually "creating" the situation before it happens. By talking about it now, you're showing your subconscious that you have the courage to face your fears, and when that happens, the fear beings to diminish and the situation becomes just that - a situation. And almost every time, we have the pleasure of meeting compassion on the other side, not judgment, understanding, not criticism. And that empowers us and un-freezes us to move forward productively.
So today, I invite you to speak to someone you trust about one of your fears around money - or, if that's too threatening, just have a conversation about this blog. Get it out in the open. Do it now. Don't let another day go by where your dreams lie waiting because of your fears. We're here to inspire, not tremble. We're here to live our dreams, not our fears.