It isn't a personal affront to us women that the professional world has been a man's world. Men have generally been the only ones in it until relatively recently, and so of course it's been a man's world. And it isn't a wonder that men have typically wanted to keep it that way, whether consciously or unconsciously. It's what they know. No, the issue is rather that we women are trying to make a curve out of a square: It isn't up to us to "make it in a man's world" but rather to make it a women's world as well. Not to make it a women's world only but a women's world as well.
Men and women do things differently. Men work mainly from their left brain. And, in an attempt to "make it in a man's world," women, as a result, have typically tried to do things the same way. The problem is that when we work that way, we are working essentially against our own nature. We have learned to dress down our femininity both literally and figuratively, and that leaves us out of balance, not only in our professional lives but in our personal lives as well.
In order to live from the power of who we are, and to become truly successful in who we are in the world, we women need to embrace what makes us women. We need to embrace both our feminine and our masculine sides, both our intuition and our logic. To bring more to the table of what's already there just makes more of the same. If we want to change the world, if we want to make the workplace truly reflect who we are, then we need to offer ourselves and not an image we've created to satisfy our picture of what we complain is a man's world.
Men aren't the problem. They created the professional world, and so, in essence, it was theirs to start with. We have entered it, and so now it's ours as well. To make change, you have to be the change. It's not men we need to change, it's ourselves we need to embrace. It's not a mindset we need to combat, it's ourselves we need to value. When we do that, we live from our own authenticity, from our own place of empowerment, and then we can truly enjoy both male and female, both masculine and feminine. Both have a place in the world, and both are needed.
Today, sisters, I encourage you to think about what it is you complain about, in the deep places of who you are, and what it is you're doing to change it. To be truly empowered is to embrace your true nature. We women have only just begun to scratch the surface of what that means. To be truly empowered is to change the world. You are the center of your world: If your world is remaining the same, it is because you haven't shifted. What shift, then, are you willing to make today?