Every human being wants the same thing, to love and be loved. And every one of us experiences the same fears. We all cover up what we think isn't "okay," and we all experience guilt. We all know the fear of abandonment, the fear of death, the fear of being alone. We all know the feeling of shame, the feeling that we are "wrong." We know what it feels like to be shunned and to be laughed at. We know what it feels like to be inferior. We know what it feels like to fear failure. We know the "bad" things we have done and how we try to ignore them or hide them or cover them up. And, for some reason, we all seem to think that we are alone in all of this.
But we are not alon
e. We all experience all of the above - every one of us, from the richest to the poorest, the healthiest to the most frail, the most evil to the most good. I don't care who you are - the head of a multi-million-dollar business or a homeless beggar on the street, a murderer on death row or a saint - your hopes and your fears are the same. They are what make you human.
In the many, many readings I have done, when it comes down to it, I always see variations of the same thing: You fear being alone, you fear being "caught out" at who you are underneath it all, you feel ashamed, you feel you are a failure, you think you are ugly, you feel you aren't a good enough mother/father/wife/husband/child, you feel responsible for other people's unhappiness, you can't forgive yourself for things you've thought or said or done, you are a sinner, your life is dominated by "I shoulds". The details of each person's life are different, but the feelings underlying everything are always the same. Always. And every single time, the message in response is the same: You are loved, and you are beautiful. Period. End of story. You are loved, and you are lovable.
We all spend so much time judging ourselves, and we think we are alone in that. We look at others and think they have it all together. And it's true, some might have worked through a bit more or have been more graced to experience life a little less harshly than others, but underneath everything else, we all relate to the fear of being alone. And as long as we can remember that, we can find compassion not only for ourselves but for everyone else, no matter what the circumstance.
We are all the same, deep inside. Every one of us. And we are okay. My life's work revolves around this one belief, and I believe it to my core. I have yet to meet a person who was not lovable or beautiful. They don't exist. And if I can see you're lovable, and that you're beautiful, then I can help you see it too. And when we can see that about ourselves, we can see it about others too. When we understand that we're okay however we are, whoever we are, then we can create our life from a place of peace, not desperation, a place of love, not fear.
We are all the same, each one of us. We are human, we are lovable, we are beautiful. And we are okay.