We all want to give and receive love. Part of what makes a successful relationship is being able to experience both. But it seems to me, sadly, that we think and talk a lot about the former and not enough about the latter, which doesn't make much sense. Giving and receiving in any relationship are two sides of the same coin - how can you continue to give love if it isn't received? It feels good to give love when it is received - it opens our heart and makes us want to continue giving more and on deeper levels. That's exactly what makes a beautful relationship - where two people are both giving and receiving fully.
But my point today isn't about how well our love is received by another - rather, it's about how well we receive love ourselves. We often spend time complaining internally that we are the one "loving" more, but how true is that really? How willing are you to accept love from another the way it is given? How much do you want your love to be accepted the way it is given, and yet you don't do the same? What does it really mean to love another unconditionally?
Pets love unconditionally. They love you the way they know how, and they receive your love the way it is given. They don't take it personally when things don't go their way, and they don't hold grudges. We humans, on the other hand, seem to want everything our way, and we want the love in a relationship to be given our way and received our way...no wonder good relationships are few and far between.
Jesus said, "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." We toss these words around easily, without thought to them because they have been used so many times, and yet they are the perfect formula for a beautiful relationship. We want others to receive our love, and yet we focus more on their response than ours - we focus more on how they receive our love rather than than how we receive theirs - and it is all done in the guise of "loving." That is not love.
Love is about giving fully, regardless of how it is received, and receiving fully, regardless of how it is given. You cannot have one without the other, and you cannot have love without a full expression of both.
So today is about receiving - about your receiving. I invite you to join me today in thinking about what kind of a receiver you are, and how you can receive better. I invite you to join me in contemplating what kind of receiving you have subconsciously (or consciously) been expecting from others, rather than just focusing on your own giving and your own receiving. And I invite you to enjoy the simple energy of the exchange itself - after all, that's what it's all about.