We all have lousy days, and when we're in them, it's pretty hard to get out of them. It's a slippery downhill slope, and you usually need some really good, sound wisdom to rope you back up to ground level. What words of wisdom would you have given my friend? That it's all for the good? That everything's gonna be okay? That she should just focus on something positive? Or would you have agreed with her that life sucks and you know just how she feels?
I believe lousy days are all about expectations. On any given lousy day, we have had expectations (whether conscious or not) that have not been met, and so the day has become lousy. But "lousy" is subjective - it is about our own personal experience and interpretation of the events happening around us, not about the events themselves - and so that is where our answer lies also - within us. Maybe the answer to a lousy day, then, is in loosening our expectations...maybe if we focus on dropping expectations for the rest of the day, we won't be attached to the outcome.
It's no coincidence that I'm blogging about lousy days and expectations on a nice fall day - fall, after all, is about letting go and being open to outcome. Perhaps we can use a lousy day showing up as a reminder to let go...That may sound difficult, but when you reach the point of serious frustration with your day, you pretty much have nothing to lose - and believe it or not, it can be like breathing fresh air to allow yourself to just let go and see what happens.
So those are my words of wisdom to my friend, even though her lousy day has passed. They are also my words of wisdom to myself and to anyone else who cares to internalize them. The next time something goes wrong for me, I intend to use that as a trigger to remind me about expectations - not to psychoanalyze myself and figure out what my expectations were (does it really matter, anyway?) but just to let go of whatever other expectations I have for that day and see what happens. To challenge the day to bring good. And I know it will.