We like to feel bad. We're comfortable there. It's familiar to us. When we start to feel good in a new way, the world starts to open up to us a little bit more, and possibilities start to present themselves. This is fun and exciting for a while, but then fear sets in, so we return to our older, more familiar habits. Better not push the bill too much.
Gay Hendricks calls this the "upper limit problem," that point where we feel great but can't allow ourselves to continue because it's out of our everyday reality. How many of us do this? We spend our lives looking ahead, ahead, ahead, and when something great does happen that will catapult us into the life we've looked ahead to, we pull back and sabotage ourselves.
What is your upper limit problem? Where are you sabotaging yourself? Your career? The life you dream of?
Today, I'm going to pick one area and make a tiny commitment to it. Tiny is good, because the upper-limit part of your brain won't think much of it - in fact, it might not even notice. Then next week I'll add a bit on to tiny - but just a tiny bit. We Americans like to go whole hog on everything, and I think that's why - we've set up a perfect system of self sabotage by doing it that way.
Every journey begins with a single step. The smaller the step, the less remarkable it is. The less remarkable it is, the less we have to protest. The less we protest, the less we sabotage. I invite you to join me on that step.