I think it's important to be conscious of the things we love in life. I actually never realized I was a tea lover until recently. My best friend and I laugh about this all the time. In the past, when she was upset, I would offer her tea, and when I was upset, she would suggest I take a nice long shower. Tea means nothing to her, and long showers mean nothing to me (in terms of comfort, anyway), and it took us quite a while before we each realized that the other was actually offering us something comforting and not trying to just change the subject! Now, I suggest she take a nice long shower and she offers to make me a cup of tea...much better.
We take a lot for granted in life. It's good to know what we derive comfort from, not just for the sake of communication (as in the situation above) but also because what good is something of comfort if you can't use it when you need comfort?? That sounds crazy, but often we aren't even aware of the things that comfort us. I didn't realize tea was so comforting to me until it was pointed out that I offer it as comfort all the time to others - but did I think of it when I needed comfort? Now I do, but before I would go straight to the cookies, or the cigarettes, or the shopping, or whatever other addiction I happened to be attached to at the time.
What are the things in life that give you comfort? I mean real comfort - not a temporary blackout like a box of chocolate. What are the things you offer others when they need comforting? Do you keep your comfort close at hand so that it's there when you need it? And are others in your life aware that it comforts you so they can offer it to you when you're down?
Obviously, the most real and deepest comfort is a human heart. But life is loving and offers us other forms of comfort too, with things that put us in a place of gratitude, or at least stillness. Tea does that for me. So does music, sometimes. Pillows do it for others. Or nice long showers. Or walks. Or reading something inspirational. What comforts us connects us to life. It connects us to our humanness and helps us be gentle with ourselves. And when we can be gentle with ourselves, we can rest, be still, accept, and ultimately move on.
So today, I offer for you to think about what comforts you and puts you back in a place of stillness and gentleness. What is your cup of tea?