Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "no-one can make you feel inferior without your consent." But what my 8-year-old friend realized yesterday goes beyond even that, and that's that no-one can make you anything without your consent. What is your consent? Your choice. It is your choice to feel inferior. It is your choice to feel anything. And it is definitely your choice to feel trapped.
In truth, you are never trapped, not on every level, anyway. You may be physically, but you certainly aren't mentally, emotionally, or spiritually, and therein lies our freedom. You are always making some choice or another. Always. Freedom fighters throughout history understood that, and that's how they brought about change.
As long as we are making ourselves helpless and subject to other people's actions, as long as we feel like we're being "made" to do, think, or feel something, we are giving away power. We are "giving away" the only control we truly have in our life - our control over our own responses. The irony, of course, is that we are giving away something that cannot be given away - whether we like it or not, that control always remains with us. And it is only when we are willing to take responsibility for our choices, when we realize that we, ourselves, govern our own lives, whether we do so consciously or not, that we are in a place where change can start to happen, where we can consciously start guiding our own course.
What choices are you making where you feel like you are being "made" to do/think/feel something? Where are you making yourself a victim to your life, your situation? Of course, there are many, many things in life that we cannot change, whether we want to or not, but, in the words of my wise 8-year-old friend, "you can never run out of choices."