It's obvious that when a person judges another person, the other person becomes the victim. But what about when we judge ourselves?
When we judge ourselves, there is a part of us that judgment is aimed towards, a part of us that is receiving that judgment, and that is the victim. We cannot judge ourselves without becoming a victim at the same time. Judges assign blame. Victims "receive" it. The problem is that victims don't receive it. That's an illusion. And so by judging ourselves, we set ourselves up for a situation of powerlessness. Read on if you're confused.
Victimhood is a state of feeling sorry for ourselves. It is a state in which we assign blame to others. It keeps us powerless, because it assigns blame to things outside us. It is the "poor me" state, and "poor me" implies that everything outside me has created my situation and there's nothing I can do about it. When we see the world this way, we have created for ourselves the illusion of complete powerlessness over our life.
There's a big difference between judging and evaluating. Judging assigns blame and creates a powerless victim (redundant, I know). Evaluating, on the other hand, looks at a situation, sees what could have been done differently, agrees to do it differently in the future, and moves on, having learned something from the situation. This is a state of power.
Today, I encourage you to notice when you're judging yourself, and to pay attention to the victim that is automatically created. We are not used to moving consciously between the two, and so the first step in breaking a cycle like this is to be aware of it. That's all. Just be aware of it. You will be tempted to move immediately again into more judgment of yourself; pay attention to how subtlely this works, and notice again the victim you create. When we become aware of this cycle, we begin to see its insanity and start to move more towards evaluating and less towards judging.
We all have choices in every moment of our lives. When we judge ourselves, we rob ourselves of knowing that and keep ourselves in a prison of our own making, a prison where thousands of choices are closer than our breath but all we can see is the walls around us. Those walls are phantoms created by our victim mindset, and only by releasing the judge is the victim released too.