When someone does something "unfair" to us, we have many choices in how to respond...when we think of all the possibilities of combinations of words and actions and expressions and emotions in any one given situation, we start to understand the many, many choices that present themselves for us in every moment.
Our lives are a reflection of our choices. Our careers are a reflection of our choices. Sometimes that's a comfortable thought, sometimes not so much, but every choice we make, whether it be as "small" as what to wear or as "big" as what career to choose, has brought us farther along on our individual path. Life has no interest in living for us; it lives with us, responding to the choices we make...and it's our choice whether or not we want that concept to be an empowering one for us or not.