What is security for you? Is it knowing that you can retire with a nice amount of money? Is it being debt free? Is it knowing that the money will be there for you to be taken care of when you can no longer take care of yourself?
In these economic times, the whole concept of security is being challenged. People right and left have lost all their savings, their retirement, their investments, overnight. What security is that, in the end? None. Years spent working to put money aside, investing it, saving for a rainy day, preparing for retirement. All those years spent putting other things in life aside to be "responsible," to "prepare."
Of course, it's a part of life, and it's important to be responsible with what you have, thinking towards the future, and making a plan. But when that plan becomes our life, there's a problem. Too many of us spend our lives worrying, worrying, worrying about the future and forsaking the present as a result. The problem with this is that more often than not our worries manifest themselves - we lose the money completely, as in the above example, or we realize too late that we have squandered relationships and dreams at the expense of feeling "secure."
Where does your security lie?
I would like to offer that true security lies in belonging. In traditional cultures, there is no such thing as a "retirement fund." Your children are your retirement fund. Your extended family is your retirement fund. You "retire" and move on to something appropriate for your stage in life - like raising the grandchildren. And when you can no longer do that, you receive. You receive from your children and your children's children because you belong. You belong.
We in the West have lost touch with the fact that we belong to life, and because of that we have become obsessed with the concept of security. When we know we belong, we open ourselves to new possibilities, new dreams. We open ourselves to the possibility that maybe we can be "responsible" and experience the freedom of living and being who we really want to be. We don't want our children to grow up knowing only how to save money for their retirement. We want them to live. At least, I would hope that's what we want. We want them to enjoy their lives, to love, to be present, to live their dreams, and to be responsible with their money and their time. We want them to know they belong.
We belong. We belong on this earth. To understand that to the core of your being is to experience true security. And when we come from a place of true security - security now, not some time in the distant future - ironically, we are able to let go and things flow. By holding on tightly, we restrict that flow.
Where does your security lie, and do you know you belong?