Yes, it's true that the words themselves don't actually cause the pain, it's our reactions that do (we always have a choice how to react), but this blog isn't so much about you as the receiver as it is about you as the giver.
Words can be strong catalysts for deep inner pain, and if we don't intend to cause that in others, we have a responsibility to pay attention to the words we choose. Being teased that you're fat when you're 8 can set you up for a life of yo-yo dieting and hating your looks. Being told you're stupid can set you up for a life of academic mediocrity. Saying something casually but carelessly to someone can reopen wounds that have been buried for years, wounds we know nothing about and yet wounds we drive the knife into unknowingly.
How careless are you with the words you choose? Do you speak mindlessly, or do your words have intention behind them? Do you think about the person who's hearing them and the person they're about? What words do you use about yourself? Today, I encourage you to pay attention to the words that come out of your mouth. I invite you to put intention behind them, intention for good, good for the person they're addressed to and good for the person they're about.