It just shows how messed up we are in our stories. I woke up worrying and then, trying to figure out what I was worrying about, I of course managed to create a whole slew of things to satisfy that. That's what we do. We play old tapes about how terrible things are, and in a matter of seconds we confirm for ourselves that we are right...
I am not comfortable in that state any longer. It's foreign to me on a day-to-day basis, and so when I feel that way it becomes my top priority to get out of it. That's not easy, but it is possible. Today happened to be harder than usual, but I did it. Here's some tips on getting out of worry:
1. Surround yourself with supportive people. The first thing I did was contact a friend I knew would support me - support me in how I was feeling but not in the worrying itself. Someone who would reassure me that all is well in the world and that as long as I am acting out of integrity with whatever is going on, it will be fine.
2. Talk to your brain. Let it know that worrying is simply a state of mind, and that it's a choice to be there. Let it know that there are a million possibilities in every moment, and that by focusing on possibility we drop the worry and open all sorts of new choices for ourselves.
3. Say positive things to yourself. Not things you can't relate to, but things you believe. I believe I deserve good, and it is around me all the time. I believe that, even if I can't see it, because I know that there's much more around me than what I see in any given moment.
4. Give yourself a break from worrying. Take a shower and tell yourself you won't worry while you're showering. Drink a cup of tea and tell yourself you'll worry after you're done. That way, you're not telling yourself you aren't allowed to worry, just that you don't have to do it constantly. Often, this will do the trick. The object of your worrying will separate itself from the worrying, and then you'll be in a much better place to take action, if it is needed. And if there isn't an object to your worrying, even better...
5. Take action if there is something "legitimate" you're worrying about. You can only change yourself; if there's something you need to do to fix something, do it. You will feel better about yourself.
6. Resolve to love yourself. Worrying is actually just a form of self punishment. It's telling ourselves we are less than what we are. Loving yourself through the worrying isn't telling yourself not to worry, it's just telling yourself that you're okay. And somehow, beautifully, knowing that lessens the worry.
Most of all, I think it's important not to fight it. Fighting it only makes it worse. Trying to ignore it makes it worse. But addressing it, acknowledging that small part of you that's taking it on, helps you find the "bigger" you in the situation, the one who understands that life is much more than that little box your head is stuck in at that moment.
And the last thing I would suggest: Sing. Sing something happy, even if it's just a silly little song, and even if the words make no sense to you at all in the moment....
"When you worry, you make it double, don't worry....be happy..."